I am Shae (they/them),
a Queer Sex & Relationship Therapist working with LGBTQIA+ individuals and partners
You are the expert in your life - I am here to help you be curious about it.
Sex and/or relationship therapy is never JUST about sex. To make sustainable change we need to look deeper. As LGBTQIA+ people that can be really hard and scary to unpack. This is why, together, we can choose a pace that works for you. I can help you understand the parts that make you - YOU - reducing shame and increasing connection with yourself and others.
I work in a way that looks at the whole picture and doesn’t pathologise your identity and is
anti-oppressive, but will also challenge patterns and behaviours that are not serving you. I don’t make judgements or assumptions. I do my best to meet you where you are at - never assuming where you should be. And if something is not working for you, we re-evaluate and change gears.
What we can work on together (any combination of the below!)
LGBTQIA+ specific issues
Shame and trust issues
Self-esteem/Confidence
Understanding sexual and romantic orientation
(this includes the grey/ace umbrella or other sexualities that might not explicitly link to sexual behaviour)
Understanding your intersectionality and how systems of oppression and privilege affect you
Gender identity
Gender dysphoria / body image issues
Hormonal changes
Coming out
Queer relationships
T4T
Chosen families and support systems
Bullying and discrimination
Processing cultural dissonance
I am sex work, neurodiversity, kink and disability friendly.
Sex and Pleasure
Sexual function issues, such as painful sex, erection issues, ejaculation and orgasm issues
Low Desire
Shame
Kink/Fetishes
Erotic identity
SW
Disability and sex
Neurodiversity and sex
Compulsive behaviours (sometimes known as sex or love “addiction” or in conjunction with chemsex)
Fertility and infertility
Sexual health concerns
Past sexual trauma
Menopause
Understanding heteronormativity
Relationships
Communication issues
Conflict management
Differing or changing sexualities or gender identities
Non-monogamy and polyamory (sometimes called ENM/CNM)
Other alt relationship styles
Improving intimacy and trust
Differing desire/libido/sex drive
Affairs
Jealousy/envy
Difficult endings
Processing grief
Amicably ending a relationship
*I do not support conversion therapy practices for anyone.
*I do not do any therapy that involves touch.