I am Shae (they/them),
a Queer Sex & Relationship Therapist working with LGBTQIA+ individuals and partners

A portrait of Shae Harmon. They are white skinned with blue eyes, their hair is short, curly and aquamarine colour. They have a slight smirk and are looking at the camera. They have a red bandana, a blue button shirt and a badge with the trans flag

You are the expert in your life - I am here to help you be curious about it.

Sex and/or relationship therapy is never JUST about sex. To make sustainable change we need to look deeper. As LGBTQIA+ people that can be really hard and scary to unpack. This is why, together, we can choose a pace that works for you. I can help you understand the parts that make you - YOU - reducing shame and increasing connection with yourself and others.

I work in a way that looks at the whole picture and doesn’t pathologise your identity, but will also challenge patterns and behaviours that are not serving you. I don’t make judgements or assumptions. I do my best to meet you where you are at - never assuming where you should be. And if something is not working for you, we re-evaluate and change gears.

What we can work on together (any combination of the below!)

LGBTQIA+ specific issues

  • Shame and trust issues

  • Self-esteem/Confidence

  • Understanding sexual and romantic orientation

    (this includes the grey/ace umbrella or other sexualities that might not explicitly link to sexual behaviour)

  • Understanding your intersectionality and how systems of oppression and privilege affect you

  • Gender identity

  • Gender dysphoria / body image issues

  • Hormonal changes

  • Coming out

  • Queer relationships

  • T4T

  • Chosen families and support systems

  • Bullying and discrimination

  • Processing cultural dissonance

Sex and Pleasure

  • Sexual function issues, such as painful sex, erection issues, ejaculation and orgasm issues

  • Low Desire

  • Shame

  • Kink/Fetishes

  • Erotic identity

  • Disability and sex

  • Neurodiversity and sex

  • Compulsive behaviours (sometimes known as sex or love “addiction” or in conjunction with chemsex)

  • Fertility and infertility

  • Sexual health concerns

  • Past sexual trauma

  • Menopause

  • Understanding heteronormativity

Relationships

  • Communication issues

  • Conflict management

  • Differing or changing sexualities or gender identities

  • Ethical non-monogamy and polyamory

  • Other alt relationship styles

  • Improving intimacy and trust

  • Differing desire/libido/sex drive

  • Affairs

  • Jealousy/envy

  • Difficult endings

  • Processing grief

  • Amicably ending a relationship

*I do not support conversion therapy practices for anyone.

*I do not do any therapy that involves touch.

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